My Truth About Long-Distance Relationships

Long-distance relationships primarily revolve around mental focus and dedication. They demand significantly more effort than relationships with physical proximity. 

One misconception about long-distance relationships that frustrates me is the idea that money is the sole factor determining their success, although a substantial financial investment is a big factor in maintaining long-distance relationships, it is simply not the sole factor.

Another commonly cited reason is the physical aspect, which is undoubtedly valid. Some people simply thrive on physical closeness. However, I believe these factors aren't the primary reasons why most long-distance relationships fail. While physical intimacy plays a crucial role, it is just one piece of the puzzle in understanding the complexities of long-distance relationships.

There is a notable amount of discourse regarding long-distance relationships, with a significant portion of people leaning towards opposition, which guaranteed, could be a valid stance. I do not dare imply that a long-distance relationship is an easy route of loving to take.

However,

Labeling money as the primary cause of most unsuccessful long-distance relationships is an oversimplification. I have a strong aversion to discussions on long-distance relationships when people condescendingly attribute the success of a long-distance relationship solely to financial means. Admittedly, I may be basing this blog post on one example from Twitter where someone said this to a couple celebrating their engagement, or perhaps drawing from my own experiences, but this dismissive attitude seems very common. I do not claim to be an expert on everyone’s relationship, but I do know a few things about long-distance relationships.

Let's address one of the main factors, and in my view, the most critical aspect of a long-distance relationship: HOPE.

Long-distance relationships are solely about hope, underscored by meticulous planning. It is the unwavering commitment and alignment of objectives that sustain the relationship through the trials of the distance. Communication is often the hinge people focus on but it is possible for effective communication to exist in the relationship without any tangible progress or direction in the relationship.

The partners have to be on the same page. A foreseeable end to the long-distance situation has to have been established - when will it end? The pain, the torture, the torment lol- 

The pivotal role of hope is so important for the mind, this shit is a mind game! Hope does so much for the entire relationship, hope is what will sustain the partners through tough times, trials, and tribulations. What are the plans in the place? What are we looking forward to?

Now secondly, LONELINESS

Only couples with a strong sense of self-assurance can effectively navigate a long-distance relationship. The ability to maintain a deep level of self-confidence and security in the attachment is crucial for preserving such relationships, not only confidence and trust in the partner but also within one’s self. They have to have an enjoyable life of their own outside of their partner- Who are you without your partner?-

A lonely partner is unlikely to endure a long-distance relationship and the loneliness I am pivoting at, is the loneliness that extends beyond physical separation; a partner who feels isolated in their heart and mind will struggle to sustain the relationship.

Emphasizing that loneliness is completely different from solitude. 

Solitude is a choice, loneliness is not.

Now I will touch base on the final one, COMMUNITY,

Community plays a crucial role in the success of a long-distance relationship. Each partner must have a solid support network within their respective geographical areas to occupy space in their lives. It is crucial for them to engage in meaningful interactions and activities even in the absence of their partner.

If one partner is critically lonely, the partner suffers more than the other, and then resentment may arise. Their growing absence starts to feel like an immense loss, because of this loneliness and things can just start to scatter from there. 

If these elements are already established in your relationship, it's most likely likely to be successful. Of course, a solid value system is paramount; you must genuinely respect, like, and love your partner to want to persevere for your love.

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